Ultimately, the only man I want/dream of is whoever God has for me regardless of what I think I want. I know that my wants may be different than my needs, so I’ll just list some preferences for the fun of it. However, there are some necessaries that cannot be compromised. Those will be at the top of the list.
Though I am definitely a romantic person, I am also a very realistic.
I know for a fact that I am going to eventually get married. There is no possible way for me to not be married. I have too much of a wife/mother personality to not be. :P
First off, the most important thing in the man that I need to know he has, is a relationship with God. I don’t have to depend on him spiritually, but I do need him to be a good spiritual leader. I long for the day we can do devotions together, pray, go to church, ministry, worship, all those things together. Not only should he be a good spiritual leader, but a leader nonetheless, for me, and for our family with integrity and structure. I need a man, not a boy. I need a guy who knows what he believes in, in life and can stand true, and not be easily swayed.
I also hope he comes from a good family, preferable already a family based on God.
**When it comes to the ‘first move’ in pursuing I expect him to be the one to be the initiator.**
Communication is a BIG DEAL. It’s very important for us to be on the same page with many things.
-I am a total touch person. I enjoy anything from hugs to a little tap/rub on the back.I’m pretty big on massages. :P Sex and anything along the lines of sex is a marriage thing, and I am in no rush to push that. My man is worth the wait for a ring and a legal document ;). I would never want to be with any other man, but him, and I would prefer having a guy who saved himself for me as well.
-Quality time, I’m going to want to be around ‘my man’ a lot. Yes, I do love a lone time, but when we are together, I will cherish every second of it no matter what we do or don’t do. We will be the best team out there
- Words of affirmation is important to me. I really do need/appreciate being encouraged. As much of a physical person I am, I definitely still need to be assured with words. Just to know everything is ok. Physical touch and affirmation come hand in hand for me. This goes for me to him as well. I want to be able to touch him and encourage him and assure him.
**I need a guy who isn’t afraid to correct me if I am wrong. We need to be able to build each other up and be the best we can be.
**He also should be able to put action to his words, and that’s where words of affirmation, and acts of service would join in together.**
-He should be able to be a good worker with good work ethic.
- Sure, I like gifts, but I don’t expect to be given gifts or to have loads of money spent on me, I’m definitely no ‘gold-digger’. I just appreciate sincere thoughtfulness.
I absolutely love children and I do plan on having kids. So he better love kids. I can’t imagine my life without children. I enjoy having them around, whether they are mine or not, they bring so much happiness to my life.
Personality really does affect my physical view for me. However, I do find myself attracted to guys who are taller than me or the same height (I’m 5’8).
There isn’t too much I can say about how he physically should look. I would appreciate it, if he were to keep himself clean and healthy. Hygiene is a VERY important thing as well. If he can’t take care of himself, what makes me think he will take care of me or even a family? So health should be important to him.
First things that usually get my attention are teeth and eyes. I LOVE eyes, dark eyes, green eyes, ice dark blue, they are all wonderful. If your eyes catch my eyes, then you’re on a good start. Teeth, well, I love smiling, and he should too. Positivity is a good characteristic to have.
I also really like hands.
With all this said I just want someone who can be completely open and honest with me and me with him. Who isn’t scared to share his feelings, passions, and thoughts with me, no matter how “lame” or random they may be. Who goes for something/someone knowing that there might be rejection, but still goes for it because he knows that to him, it’s worth it. Who thinks that I am worth the risk.
I want my best friend.